Tuesday, September 30, 2008

Ayurveda to boost sex

Sex is one of the most essential aspects of our life and Ayurveda offers one of the best ways to lead a gratifying sex life without any artificial a


Ayurvedic herbs to boost sex driveids such as medicines minus side effects and other unnatural methods. Ayurvedic medicines stimulate the body to heal itself naturally. There are many Ayurvedic herbs which act as very effective sex tonics and also have the ability to revitalise the bodily systems making them free from diseases.

These inexpensive and often rather ordinary looking Ayurvedic herbs produce excellent results if taken properly, as they are also free from any side effects. "On their own however these might not even work for you. He further adds, "In Ayurveda there are three main organising principles of nature that are found in every person, in nature, and in all other beings. These principles operate throughout nature and can be seen in the changes of the time of day and the change of seasons.

These three governing principles are called Vata, Pitta and Kapha doshas and on the basis of these, herbs used in combination deliver satisfactory results. Although adaptogenic herbs (herbs that increase body's resistance to stress, trauma and fatigue ) are similar in concept, each herb is unique and should be chosen with care and under the guidance of a good Ayurvedic practitioner. If we just treat each patient in the same way, then it is not effective. Ayurveda, however, recognises that each person is unique and each person needs to be treated according to the imbalance of their doshas ." What is Vata, Pitta and Kapha ?

Vata is responsible for all movement in the body and controls respiratory organs, circulation, movement in the digestive tract, and impulses traveling through the nerves. Pitta is energy and it regulates the digestive process, metabolism, heat, and energy production, while Kapha balances the fluids.

Each individual is made up of the three doshas , yet in varying degrees. A person with more Vata will be thin, quick, creative, lively in thoughts, speech and action, and can make friends easily. However, if the Vata is out of balance, that person will be anxious, worried, overwhelmed, fretful, have dry skin and high blood pressure. A person with a predominance of Pitta in his physiology will be of medium proportions, with a frame that is neither petite nor heavy. They will have a warm, sensitive skin, fine hair and will be sharp and determined in thought, speech and action.

However, if the Pitta is out of balance, that person can be irritable, angry, demanding, and impatient, prone to skin rashes, premature graying, and thinning of hair. A Kapha-type person is of larger proportions with good muscles. They have thick,smooth skin and rich, wavy hair. They are generous, kind, forgiving, calm, loyal and possess a good memory. Out of balance Kaphas are dull and lethargic, have oily skin, they gain weight, and have a slow digestion. They can become emotionally attached, and suffer from allergies, congestive problems and heart disease

Sunday, September 28, 2008

Sexual temptation

It's widely believed that eating chocolates produce certain hormones that are exactly the same as those generated while having sex! Then why eat chocolates? Sex is a better option! While you'd do anything to savour the ultimate joy before, during and after sex, you might not know that there are several food items that can build up the mood, ignite the passion and get you going for a gratifying act in bed.

Aphrodisiacs, as they are commonly referred to, may have some scientific study backing them up, but couples usually select them based on certain preset notions and beliefs. While some feel that they're tempting enough to evoke their erotic senses, for others, aphrodisiacs are an integral part of the foreplay process. When I see melted chocolate, it tempts me a lot and I get a feeling of my partner trying to seduce me in bed.

It's not that I spread chocolate all over her body, but having a bite of chocolate and then kissing her with it in my mouth sets the mood right," shares 29-year old Mr Sharma. Other than chocolate, fruits like strawberries and bananas are also considered to be effective aphrodisiacs. "Of course, you can't think of teasing your partner with a fruit like mango.

Strawberries are small and the heart-shape helps in building the sexual mood, as you can just take half of it in your mouth and let your partner try and bite the remaining half. Also, the soft thorns on the outer layer work well to make my hubby horny," feels cherry. There's a belief that the more a couple sweat it out in bed, the wilder the sex escapade gets. Couples also therefore tend to consume more of chilli peppers to induce sweating. "Eating chicken makes my man sweat a lot and I don't need to add that extra, spicy chilli. In a way, mere chicken acts as an aphrodisiac for me to get him going," shares 32-year old housewife reena. While aphrodisiacs have been doing their rounds since time immemorial, nobody really knows what good they actually do. Read ahead to know more about how they work...



Post delivery sex


Confused as to which between-the-sheets activities are safe after you've spent the last nine months coping with pregnancy stress. Now that your lil’ one is safe and sound, it's time to respond to your intimate physical needs. A study found that for 20% of first time mothers it took six months to feel physically comfortable during sex. The median time was around three months.


Yet, another study revealed that 57% of women were still having less frequent sex 12 months after child birth. Lucy, who has delivered a baby three weeks back says, "recovering from childbirth, hardly sleeping, and answering the demands of breastfeeding often leads to couples neglecting their sexual needs. With the new member needing huge adjustments, it's often difficult for couples to make time for sex in an already packed schedule".


For most women, dealing with their decreased libido is only a temporary change that requires time to resume to normal. Women generally tend to show lack of interest in sex because of fatigue due to childbirth. The time taken by a woman to get back her sexual desire depends largely on her birthing experience. Many women do not desire sex after childbirth because of the pain, or fear of pain.


Women who deliver with the assistance of forceps tend to take longer to feel comfortable during sex. The same goes for women who experience internal vaginal tears.The main reason for avoiding intercourse is to allow the woman's genital tissues to heal, especially if there was an episiotomy or tearing. Avoiding infection is another reason". One should not forget that postpartum sex is more painful if the delivery has been vaginal. Women with swelling after childbirth and/or any breakdown of the perineum (the external region between the vulva and the anus that is made up of skin and muscle) also tend to take longer to feel comfortable during sex.


After delivery, physically, you or your partner may notice a change in the size and shape of a woman's vagina. One should always go for a postpartum re-check, so that your doctor gives you a green signal to indulge in intercourse.The vagina may be drier than normal, especially if the new mother is breast feeding. Ensure that everything has healed and that you take proper precautions for birth control.


I can't tell you the number of women I've seen who come for their postpartum visits and are already pregnant because they didn't think it could happen" Partners should understand that, while a woman's interest for sexual intimacy has returned, other factors, such as lack of sleep, may also affect her emotional interest. So stop pondering on whether you will you ever make love again? Like, everything else in your new and often overwhelming life, it's just a matter of time and a question of patience (especially from your partner, who's almost certainly ready for this dry spell to end). So wait until you're feeling ready, or help yourself get ready with the following helpful pointers:

Blame your hubby for your being fat


Tried everything but can’t seem to get rid of your post-marriage love handles? Well, don’t question your determination for the failed plan, for the real culprit behind all weight worries is your hubby. Yes, you heard it right. According to health experts, a husband is more of a hindrance than help in a wife''s battle with the bulge.


For some women, marriage definitely can be fattening, Its hard enough for them to stick to good eating habits when they''re single, but they can find it impossible after they''re married. "For a start, they've got to prepare food for two people, and it gets worse when children come along. Suddenly, she is constantly thinking about food - buying it, cooking it, fixing snacks and meals at different times of the day.


And if thehusband doesn't need to diet, then with all the best intentions in the world, the poor woman is going to find it very tough preparing big wholesome meals for the family and low-calorie snacks for herself,If a woman can''t stay on a diet, it could easily be her husband''s fault," he said.


In fact, a husband might subconsciously be encouraging his wife to remain fat, and make it harder for her to lose weight,some reasons as to why this could be so: if he feels in any way insecure in his relationship, then he reasons that a plump wife is less likely to leave him or make other men jealous, if he has a low sex drive then having a fat wife is a very good excuse for lack of interest or potency. If he's the kind who isn''t prepared to put a lot of effort into the marriage, then it will be much easier for him to keep her "fat" than "happy.


If his wife is a failure as a dieter, it "allows" him to have his workaholic schedule or an affair and there are many other ways that a husband, perhaps unwittingly, can hinder his wife''s ambitions to keep her weight down, the health expert added.

Nothing spicier than vacation sex


Want to pep up your love life? Well, then all you need to do is plan a ‘vacation’ sex with your partner, for it can do wonders for your heart, mind, and soul, according to a new research. Sex on a holiday allows you to get away from pressures, distractions, worries and responsibilities — basically, any of those libido-killers that affect your love life most days of the year, reports the Daily Telegraph While on vacation, you can totally devote yourself to nurturing your sexual needs and desires — and to attending to those of your lover.


This is one of the reasons the vast majority of marriage counsellors recommend a regular weekend away as the one thing that can help a marriage, especially a struggling one. Vacation is the best place to get ‘sexperimental’. People love having sex in new places. This is in large part because of the neurotransmitter dopamine. When people have new experiences, dopamine spikes in the brain, triggering lust.


And with that, many are willing to try something new and exciting. In a new, romantic, or exotic place, lovers can rediscover one another. In trying different restaurants or embarking on a variety of nightlife activities, every evening that you’re away feels like a date night, each with its own distinct backdrop. All of this enhances lovers’ moods, helping them to feel better about one another and more connected. When you make the time for nothing but loving, that’s hopefully what you’re going to get – and lots of it.


Sex will breed the desire for more sex, making both partners feel better about their sex life and the relationship. This is both for couples already content with their sex life and those hoping their vacation will make for some romance repair.