How simple it would be if you could just tell your boyfriend/husband “I love you” as many times as possible during the day? Foundation for a strong relationship or what! Instead we think up of all kinds of alternatives to these simple words and end up by not communicating properly the extent of our involvement with the other person. Result? Your husband or significant other might be left with an empty feeling because he believes he is not loved!
So what should your attitude be? Whether it is you or your husband who is the person with the communication problem, remember that if you listen hard enough, you will surely hear the hidden meaning of love that is evident in differently expressed words, or actions like an impulsive hug that says much more than words.
Open gestures like giving of gifts, cards or even tears of joy can go a long way towards expressing one’s love. As will impulsive hugs and smiles of sheer joy. Most times it will pay to look out for these signs and appreciate the love thus expressed – and remember to forgive your partner if he does not reciprocate likewise by recognizing your attempts at conveying your love.
What you have to understand is that any outward expression of anger does not automatically mean lack of love. Listen carefully and you will soon get to recognize the covert language of underlying love that has eluded you so far. Stop looking only for negative signs that stand for rejection. Learn to look under the surface and you will soon know what I mean. Come out of the scary world that is a result of lack of communication or love – all you have to do is to learn to listen effectively so that you are quick to understand the power of love that exists beneath the surface.